Do Parents have Different Hopes and Standards for their Sons than for their Daughters:
As per traditional societal prescriptions/standards (in mostly whatever part of the world one chooses to focus on), sons – and males in general – have normally had their behaviors & ‘dynamics of living’ gauged against different cultural standards than daughters (women). In most societies, ranging from the Americas and the snow-capped peaks of Northern Europe to the fiery hot plains of Africa and tropical South East Asia, religious mores and customs have held large sway in consolidating these identity constructs to their present forms. With the help of Spectrum Internet, you can gain a lot of useful information on this subject (some of which has been concisely summarized within this post).
The Historical Development of Gender Identities
For the most part, the male child (since infancy) is reared in a way that prepares him for an extroverted, dynamic, active, martial and leadership role in his future domestic dwelling and society. Boys who spontaneously or consciously rebelled against this fixed mold in the past were largely deemed to be unwanted outsiders to the cultural status-quo, and their opportunities for success and prosperity considered limited (though contemporary society has seen much in the way of a fundamental erosion of these restricting belief patterns). The same dynamic has historically held true for the female child, although (again) the last century saw great advances leading towards the more egalitarian treatment of women – a social improvement credited (in large part, and deservedly) to the global feminist movement.
The Standards that Differentiate between Sons & Daughters
The girl child had traditionally – and in terms of her ontological function – been thought of as merely the eventual companion (& functional facilitator) for the male; the appeaser of his bodily and intellectual wishes, as well as the vessel for the prolongation of his species. Such myopic beliefs, although they continue to thrive sub-terra in certain guarded ultra-conservative & extremist social circles, are now frowned upon my most civilized society. This is not to say that female sexual harassment and physical objectification – which are some of the most common oppressive devices deployed by males to define their authoritarian, power-laden hold in certain social situations – does not occur in today’s world. One need only look at the recent virtual predominance of the #MeToo campaign (spawned after the Weinstein allegations) and the Aziz Ansari alleged-harassment fiasco to know that this sadly is still not the case.
This, then, is the sociological terrain in which parents get to raise their children, and which leads to the subsequent collective mindset of a new generation being formed.
A Word on the Cultural Conscience
When making inquiries into the nature of the social constructs established for boys & girls, it is also important to understand that culture is not a static phenomenon in linear time. It is an ever expanding, shrinking, innovating and backward-looking nexus of thoughts and ideas – which is democratic in the sense that the belief-system with the most psychological and emotional adherents wins (for a certain period), and is upheld by a larger swatch of humanity until another one makes its way for gradual ascension.
Culture, when it has been set up over a community of linked individuals, operates certain involuntary mechanisms for rewarding those people who uphold its largely unspoken tenets. Conversely, and even in the most so-called ‘advanced’ societies that champion the liberties of thought and rightful action, it also has ways to deal with the non-conformists who fall under its aegis – and these methods may include censorship and social boycott by the masses (who may passionately think themselves to be doing a service to the ‘natural’ order). In a nutshell, these admonishing tendencies – exhibited by culture and its foot soldiers – are the risks that any boy or girl, man or woman, faces when he/she consciously decided to stray from the beaten path.
The Role Played by Pop-Culture
Pop-Culture (which is creatively disseminated through the mediums of the television, the Internet, and every onscreen, audio and print media production) also happens to be one of the most definitive ways in which cultural watchdogs regulate and define social discourse. They instruct people on how to act, what to wear, and the ‘proper’ modes of thinking and contemplation. And when compared with virtually all of the other information-begetting (and knowledge producing by a very fast Spectrum Phone and Internet plans) platforms of social interaction put together, pop culture is often considered by a majority of social experts to be the single most effective tool for realizing mass mind-control (with this being, in no conceivable way, a conspiracy theory). The pivotal role that Hollywood plays in the Western (and increasingly Eastern) transnational cultural conscience is another topic that occupies a seminal position in this discussion.