Mum life - the rose without a thorn:
Mom life is the most fulfilling and also most challenging thing I've ever done! I forget when changing countless diapers, running errand, feeding every few hours that I had to feed myself. Ain't no good like motherhood.
How is motherhood treating you? A common question asked to every new bee mom. Amazing but sometimes tiring, sleepless nights, no time for outings, no time for myself. I believe these are the possible answers that you give & I totally relate to the answers too but sometime back my mom asked me how you're doing in your role as a mother? You read many books on motherhood, people advised you but think about all you have learned that u never read in books! Think about all you have learned about yourself. And as much as I try to avoid getting too philosophical while piecing together Mr potato head or trying to pull him out of someone's sock, I decided to give the self-evaluation stuff a try.
I started thinking about the early days. Amazingly enough, I realized I did know something I'd never read in a book-all babies are born with innate sense that urges them to cry & demand immediate attention if their mother should attempt any of the following : a warm meal, a phone call, a good book, a hot bath or some cuddle time with dear daddy.
I have learned some unpublished facts about nutrition also. I know 1 and a half year old can survive on yogurt, cookies & grapes for extended periods of time. I also know that peanut butter , besides being impossible to clean off a high chair, is a great hair conditioner.
Further thought made me realize that I have learned some things about myself. I've discovered that if I don't have time to myself , I tend to get dull. I have learned that for me to be a good (most of the time) & sane ( some of the time) mother, I need a good friend who shares the same ideas & ideals of motherhood. I've also learned that every once in a while I think how peaceful it would be without my son, it doesn't mean I don't love him because I do, I love him so so much, - it simply means I need a break. And there are times when I don't like the peacefulness at all when he is sleeping for too long. I want to wake him up & cuddle with him, play with him, smother him with kisses.
Then I thought of something else I learned. The things that scared me earlier now I fight it with courage, there is a sort of calmness in my life, I became more patient & more mature because of my son. I wasn't ambitious, in fact i didn't know where my life was going. I was living each day as it came but when adhiraj came into the world, my world , everything changed. It became a turning point of my life. I started writing. I never thought I could but now look at me i am 6 article old & right now writing my 7th article and it is dedicated to my son.
I do know now what it means to be a real mother! It means that on our very bad days, my method of survival relies on reciting, "this, too, shall pass" and that on most days I know that this, too, shall pass - too quickly. I kept this little handsome fella, my son in my womb for 9 months to be exact but he will be in my heart till I take my last breath.
Lastly, the most important thing I have learned about myself is that everything has changed & yet, I am more ME than I have ever been.
Bring on the toast! A toast to ourselves & our journey as a mother. A toast to all the moms - single, strict, lenient, lazy, messy, crazy, obsessive, loving, caring. Know this that you are the best mom in the world. For your kid you are his/her only best.